I am sorry you are divorced. Unless it makes you happy? In which case I am happy you are divorced.
I started the divorce myself. Including separation, 1993, I am divorced for 22 years. Best thing to happen. Worst was the marriage. Seriously!
You have been divorced even longer than I.
I had many strange, even sad emotions when my husband died a couple years ago, but none of which was love. He killed that long time ago. We did not part as friends. I do not blame myself for the bad in the marriage. But it did make me angry and a loner for many years afterwards.
I'm sorry your marriage was not happy. But you still speak to your wife. That much is good? My husband and I could not speak friendly. For what he did he may be in hell, if hell exists. Personally I believe hell just means not allowed to be with or near God after death. That would be the worst hell for me. To be denied forgiveness, love, hope, and peace of spirit... that would be a hell.