You know, usually I despise women characters too. In almost all the books or fanfics, it's male dominant, and then a sexy-powerful-Jedi/Sith-attractive girl pops and the main characters or even other men fall in love with her. They are "Mary-Sue".
BUT Etain is not like that. I'm not a fan of her, but I like the fact that she's not a good Jedi, she's not powerful at all, she has a lot of doubts... I wouldn't like a character like Mara Jade who's a sexy powerful Jedi even at 55 years old but looks like a 20-years-old in the comics just to make fanboys drool, or twi'lek characters like Aayla Secura who is more dressed as a bitch than a Jedi, etc. I hate Laseema, for example, and I hate Atin, because he's the dark-mysterious-tortured-cliché man who has no tastes in women and goes out with the first bitch who seduces him.And Laseema is the cliché of the superficial woman who's attracted by any strong man with scars.
So for me, Etain is not that sexy-attractive type of character, she's not created for male readers, and I think it's a good thing
even if I don't like when clones go out with anyone. (ALL MINE!!!! *psychopath laugh*
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