Comment on Groups on d/a by jennystokes
Just needed to say, Jenny....About Eric-Huffman's comment...
Although true, we should all learn to curb our tongues,... We all are only human. And will have the occasional slip now and then. (Lord knows I have, and have journal postings to remind myself *sigh* ) We can especially slip if we should happen to be 'in-the-moment' - dealing with a particular crapola head; and that anger fresh in our minds.
I'm not trying to be difficult. I get pleasure though out of people's responses to our journals/status's, postings. In fact, we are lucky when we do get them, as most have the mentality of 'not wanting to get involved' (even if they secretly do have an opinion) ; having the thinking 'to avoid any possible trouble that may come of it'; and so they refrain altogether.
Having people provoke us to anger is a normal part of life. And the occasional slip quite normal (and healthy too, I dare say, if done in moderation) I just think we shouldn't deter one another from expressing ourselves. (and of course, if said 'language' isn't TOO offensive, or TOO common place in our dealings. )
I'm sure you didn't mean it this way at all, what I'm about to say... having gotten to know you as much as I have, thus far. But reading your response to him,...and reading it objectively... I found that it put me off. As it came across as rather controlling and not very inviting. Especially when not followed by any other response, to what he had written.
...Anyway...Just a bit of perspective, Jen. Because if it struck me this way (and I know you a bit now to know better, that you of course are not controlling) . It might too, strike others the same way. Then we may not get to hear their thoughts at all.
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Although true, we should all learn to curb our tongues,... We all are only human. And will have the occasional slip now and then. (Lord knows I have, and have journal postings to remind myself *sigh* ) We can especially slip if we should happen to be 'in-the-moment' - dealing with a particular crapola head; and that anger fresh in our minds.
I'm not trying to be difficult. I get pleasure though out of people's responses to our journals/status's, postings. In fact, we are lucky when we do get them, as most have the mentality of 'not wanting to get involved' (even if they secretly do have an opinion) ; having the thinking 'to avoid any possible trouble that may come of it'; and so they refrain altogether.
Having people provoke us to anger is a normal part of life. And the occasional slip quite normal (and healthy too, I dare say, if done in moderation) I just think we shouldn't deter one another from expressing ourselves. (and of course, if said 'language' isn't TOO offensive, or TOO common place in our dealings. )
I'm sure you didn't mean it this way at all, what I'm about to say... having gotten to know you as much as I have, thus far. But reading your response to him,...and reading it objectively... I found that it put me off. As it came across as rather controlling and not very inviting. Especially when not followed by any other response, to what he had written.
...Anyway...Just a bit of perspective, Jen. Because if it struck me this way (and I know you a bit now to know better, that you of course are not controlling) . It might too, strike others the same way. Then we may not get to hear their thoughts at all.
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Ha! Well put.
I have known Eric for a while now and we always have this 'thing' with words!
I can be controlling (of course) but right now am trying for less of the 'angry words'...........people need to calm down after what has happened.
I have absolutely no quarrel with 'anger' and when speaking angrily myself I know it puts people off but rather out than held in.
I am always interested in what Eric has to say BUT this time I had had enough and didn't bother to read it at all.
I have known Eric for a while now and we always have this 'thing' with words!
I can be controlling (of course) but right now am trying for less of the 'angry words'...........people need to calm down after what has happened.
I have absolutely no quarrel with 'anger' and when speaking angrily myself I know it puts people off but rather out than held in.
I am always interested in what Eric has to say BUT this time I had had enough and didn't bother to read it at all.
I just think it confuses people when they may read a journal of yours in which you may express anger and use "language" yourself, then ask others to please not do the same. In fact, doing so, unwittingly invites them to do the same.
Yes........I guess so.
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