sagethethird's avatar
I don't see why it has to be put in to those two specific categories. Or any category at all.

it says nothing about them personally, and nothing about how comfortable they would be with me, so it really doesn't point to any specific reason why I would or would not want to date said girl.

There are many reasons I wouldn't date many girls. All of them more often than not involve character and none of them seem to involve whether or not they are "girly" whatever one defines that as.

describing a girl as a "tomboy" IMO is a bit sexist because who's to say how a "girl" should act? if "tomboy" means acting less like the traditional passive role that has for centuries been the unfortunate stereotype of women, then I'd rather have someone who's confident and not passive so yes I'd like what you'd call a "tomboy"

but where is the line drawn? why should we analyze the merit of a woman based on how they act or dress? this says nothing about their humanity.

I'd rather date the loud obnoxious woman who donates to charity and sees me as a human being than the quiet polite girl who supports racism and intolerance.
Shikooko's avatar
Firstly, thank you for the long answer, and secondly, I agree. This question of mine is very plain and in many ways stupid, but it is meant to be answered like so. I acknowledge your points and agree on them, though.