Already happened. Gave my number to a friend of hers. Went out for coffee. Now I'm just trying to find some time to hang out with her again. THough I'm not 100% sure she wants to. I'll have to keep prodding
How long ago did you see her? Have you texted her since? A lot of girls I know get super paranoid about texting activity or lack thereof. It doesn't help that most guys signal that they are no longer interested by never speaking to us again, so sometimes not hearing from a guy we've gone out with after a day or two can make us start to think this is what he's doing. I am apparently very liberal when it comes to how long I will tolerate waiting to hear back from a guy; I've recently made many more female friends than I used to have, and they freak out and even get angry if a guy doesn't text them back within a few hours or so.
Oh, and that's the thing you need to be aware of: First it's "I guess he's busy right now," then it's "Omg he's ignoring my text he must think I'm a loser, boo hoo he doesn't like me," then it's "HOW DARE THAT ASSHOLE IGNORE ME LIKE THIS. FUCK HIM FOR NOT LIKING ME, I HOPE HE ROTS IN HELL." Then sometime after that is probably when you realize you have a text on your phone that you haven't opened yet.
The best thing to do would be to text a girl the day after you've gone out with her and say, "Hey, I had a lot of fun last night! Are you doing anything next weekend?" If it's already been a few days, don't worry yet and just replace "last night" with "the other day" or whatever.
Or, if there's anything you two talked about on your date that would make sense to follow up on, like talking about a funny YouTube video or commercial she hasn't seen, or an article you've read that she hadn't, or a movie that she hasn't heard about yet, or a band she's not familiar with, link her to whatever it was you were trying to describe to her. Don't send a novel of text with it, just "this is that ___ I was talking about: [link]"
Oh, and that's the thing you need to be aware of: First it's "I guess he's busy right now," then it's "Omg he's ignoring my text he must think I'm a loser, boo hoo he doesn't like me," then it's "HOW DARE THAT ASSHOLE IGNORE ME LIKE THIS. FUCK HIM FOR NOT LIKING ME, I HOPE HE ROTS IN HELL." Then sometime after that is probably when you realize you have a text on your phone that you haven't opened yet.
The best thing to do would be to text a girl the day after you've gone out with her and say, "Hey, I had a lot of fun last night! Are you doing anything next weekend?" If it's already been a few days, don't worry yet and just replace "last night" with "the other day" or whatever.
Or, if there's anything you two talked about on your date that would make sense to follow up on, like talking about a funny YouTube video or commercial she hasn't seen, or an article you've read that she hadn't, or a movie that she hasn't heard about yet, or a band she's not familiar with, link her to whatever it was you were trying to describe to her. Don't send a novel of text with it, just "this is that ___ I was talking about: [link]"
Well, we had coffee and walked home together. Then I didn't text her till this weekend, asking what she was up to, she promptly replied she's working saturday and sunday. I asked if she had any last minute shopping to do on christmas eve, she, again, promptly replied luckily she got it all done (I was looking to see if she'd join me in this last minute shopping) Then I asked what she was doing boxing day (today) she said she's going up to her cabin.
I'm thinking of asking if she'd like to meet up again soon, when she gets back. But slant the message toward really asking if she'd like to see me again. Cause I haven't seen her since last monday... I know this weekend has been busy and it's christmas and all so I haven't had the thought that she's avoiding me or anything. And like I said she responded almost immediately after I texted her and they had a light hearted tone to them.
(I feel like such a tool over-analyzing every little thing like this but if you could provide your advice that'd be swell)
I'm thinking of asking if she'd like to meet up again soon, when she gets back. But slant the message toward really asking if she'd like to see me again. Cause I haven't seen her since last monday... I know this weekend has been busy and it's christmas and all so I haven't had the thought that she's avoiding me or anything. And like I said she responded almost immediately after I texted her and they had a light hearted tone to them.
(I feel like such a tool over-analyzing every little thing like this but if you could provide your advice that'd be swell)
Try asking what she's doing for New Year's. Everyone parties on New Year's, right?
If she says nothing or that she doesn't know yet, invite her to your plans. If she says she's doing something, ask if she wants to meet up with you and yours for a while. If she invites you to her plans, go. Or tell her you're already partying with your friends but would love to meet up after.
If she says nothing or that she doesn't know yet, invite her to your plans. If she says she's doing something, ask if she wants to meet up with you and yours for a while. If she invites you to her plans, go. Or tell her you're already partying with your friends but would love to meet up after.
what if i'm a bum and don't have any plans?
She doesn't seem to be the partying type either. I work with a number of her friends and they are all pretty straight laced. From what I gather she is too.
Do you think it would be weird to hang out on new years for a second date?
She doesn't seem to be the partying type either. I work with a number of her friends and they are all pretty straight laced. From what I gather she is too.
Do you think it would be weird to hang out on new years for a second date?
You should make plans... I wouldn't really want to date anyone who didn't have any friends. They would get clingy.
What does being straight laced have to do with partying? Straight laced people don't get together and celebrate New Year's? "Partying" doesn't have to mean keg stands, lines of coke, and body shots off hookers. I had plenty of non-alcoholic parties when I was younger.
I don't see it as weird unless you're like "we have to MAKE OUT at midnight" or "this means we're going to be together all year, LOL." If I was making a new friend and had a party coming up I'd invite them so I don't see why it has to be weird. Just have fun hanging out and don't be super coupley. Frankly if I was talking to a guy and found out he went to a New Year's party and didn't think to invite me I'd assume he was just setting me up to be a booty call and that's why he doesn't want me to meet his friends. Or that he's seeing other girls (or wants to be) and didn't want me to cramp his style and prevent him from hooking up with someone else on New Year's. Or didn't want me to meet his friends because he's playing multiple girls and doesn't want his friends to know about it.
But if you wouldn't feel comfortable then don't. The hell do I know.
What does being straight laced have to do with partying? Straight laced people don't get together and celebrate New Year's? "Partying" doesn't have to mean keg stands, lines of coke, and body shots off hookers. I had plenty of non-alcoholic parties when I was younger.
I don't see it as weird unless you're like "we have to MAKE OUT at midnight" or "this means we're going to be together all year, LOL." If I was making a new friend and had a party coming up I'd invite them so I don't see why it has to be weird. Just have fun hanging out and don't be super coupley. Frankly if I was talking to a guy and found out he went to a New Year's party and didn't think to invite me I'd assume he was just setting me up to be a booty call and that's why he doesn't want me to meet his friends. Or that he's seeing other girls (or wants to be) and didn't want me to cramp his style and prevent him from hooking up with someone else on New Year's. Or didn't want me to meet his friends because he's playing multiple girls and doesn't want his friends to know about it.
But if you wouldn't feel comfortable then don't. The hell do I know.
Anything happen for you to say she might not want to hang out with you again? And don't prod too much haha!
It's mostly that I've asked her a few times what she was up to on the weekend and on boxing day and that she hasn't really shown an interest in meeting up again. She said she's going to her cabin today, not sure when she's getting back.
Though of course, these are text messages and are thus: stupid. So they shouldn't be taken too seriously. I just have a feeling in my gut that she might not want to meet again. Otherwise she'd have maybe mentioned when she'd be back or mention when she was free or something
Though of course, these are text messages and are thus: stupid. So they shouldn't be taken too seriously. I just have a feeling in my gut that she might not want to meet again. Otherwise she'd have maybe mentioned when she'd be back or mention when she was free or something
That may be true. But I guess seeing her again won't hurt, right? I mean, s'all up to you! You know how girls are. If you don't persist with them they say that you aren't confident enough or something and if you do persist then they say you're a creep. No pleasing them :/