I'd tell the kid that I don't believe in Santa. And then I'd ask what he thinks. When the kid asks why I don't believe, I'd tell him that I don't know, that maybe it's a grown-up thing. After a certain age you just stop believing in Santa. And then I'd ask what he thinks.
This situation has actually happened, it was with my youngest brother. It was quite interesting to listen to his thoughts. According to him, Santa doesn't live in the North Pole. In fact,here is one Santa for each country, and they switch countries each year. That way they will meet all the children eventually. I guess this was his way to explain why Santa looked different from the year before. ^^
True, but I don't say "aww it looks great, thank you!" when my nephew gives me stuff. I say "thank you! Wow, you must have worked really hard making this, huh?" because that is the truth. He worked his ass off to make that for me, so I say thank you and take it back home with me with a smile on my face.
So what you're saying is that if the gift is ugly-looking I cannot appreciate the gift? Are you the kind of person who wouldn't want anything else but beauty around you, and if a gift looks like shit you don't want it? Wow, how superficial of you.
I happen to like to receive gifts that were handmade by the one who gives it to me, no matter how it looks. But hey, maybe that's just me. ^^
This situation has actually happened, it was with my youngest brother. It was quite interesting to listen to his thoughts. According to him, Santa doesn't live in the North Pole. In fact,here is one Santa for each country, and they switch countries each year. That way they will meet all the children eventually. I guess this was his way to explain why Santa looked different from the year before. ^^
True, but I don't say "aww it looks great, thank you!" when my nephew gives me stuff. I say "thank you! Wow, you must have worked really hard making this, huh?" because that is the truth. He worked his ass off to make that for me, so I say thank you and take it back home with me with a smile on my face.
So what you're saying is that if the gift is ugly-looking I cannot appreciate the gift? Are you the kind of person who wouldn't want anything else but beauty around you, and if a gift looks like shit you don't want it? Wow, how superficial of you.
I happen to like to receive gifts that were handmade by the one who gives it to me, no matter how it looks. But hey, maybe that's just me. ^^
You always have a way of twisting it around. That's not really that much better.
And in the first example the child was asking you for the truth, and you didn't really answer him, just danced around it. Don't you think that betraying a childs trust like that is wrong?
And in the first example the child was asking you for the truth, and you didn't really answer him, just danced around it. Don't you think that betraying a childs trust like that is wrong?
No, in the first example the kid asked if Santa was real. I answered that I don't believe in Santa, which is the truth. That's how it happened. Don't like? Then that's your problem, not mine. And my little brother was happy with my answer, so there's no need for you to be all worked up about it.
And it's not twisting, it was the truth. I've been given lots of gifts from my nephews and nieces, and not once have they asked or wanted to know if it looks pretty. They gave me gifts because they wanted to give them to me. And I showed them I enjoyed receiving them and that I knew they had worked hard. That's not lying. You may think it is, but it's not.
And may I remind you, the OP is about why some consider their friends to be bad friends when they tell them the truth. The OP is not about what you say to a child when it asks you a question about Santa or what you say to a child when they give you a gift.
And it's not twisting, it was the truth. I've been given lots of gifts from my nephews and nieces, and not once have they asked or wanted to know if it looks pretty. They gave me gifts because they wanted to give them to me. And I showed them I enjoyed receiving them and that I knew they had worked hard. That's not lying. You may think it is, but it's not.
And may I remind you, the OP is about why some consider their friends to be bad friends when they tell them the truth. The OP is not about what you say to a child when it asks you a question about Santa or what you say to a child when they give you a gift.
The kid didn't ask what you believe, he asked is or is not there a santa, thats a yes or no question.
And the other one was not what has happened to you, this is a if it happened to you this way question.
And the other one was not what has happened to you, this is a if it happened to you this way question.
Well, a "I don't believe in Santa" is a "no, I don't think he exists". He accepted that answer. Now, may you accept that answer and move on?
Like I said, the OP is about whether a friend is a bad friend if he/she tells you the truth about whatever instead of lying you straight in the face. It's not about children or what you say to them when they ask about Santa. Kids wasn't the issue here, so pull the pickle out of your booty, why don't you? Or go create a thread about how "mean" I am for not lying to a kid. Your call. ^^ Regardless what you will do next, I'm not discussing this kid-thing with you any further.
Like I said, the OP is about whether a friend is a bad friend if he/she tells you the truth about whatever instead of lying you straight in the face. It's not about children or what you say to them when they ask about Santa. Kids wasn't the issue here, so pull the pickle out of your booty, why don't you? Or go create a thread about how "mean" I am for not lying to a kid. Your call. ^^ Regardless what you will do next, I'm not discussing this kid-thing with you any further.
You should know that threads rarely stay on topic, and a conversation arises from the original and evolves in to something else.
That sounds like a very strangely sad child.
That sounds like a very strangely sad child.
Maybe so, but a child and a friend are two entirely different things in my book.
And nope, he is a very happy child. He's a teenager now, though.
And nope, he is a very happy child. He's a teenager now, though.
Truth is truth, whether to a child or friend. If you are going to play the honesty card all the way, you can't pick and choose, you can't distinguish.
In all honesty lying to a child is far worse.
In all honesty lying to a child is far worse.
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