Yeah... a lot was invested indeed, and i actually agree with pretty much all you are saying
I think you are right about me apologizing, but i think it is better just to left things as they are, and just step out of the picture, because, well lots of details i am not going to bore you with. Sometimes what we want (or what we think we want) is not the correct actions for others.. In this particular situation, her.
I will definitively try the last suggestion, i do believe this bonds you describe are a real thing!
Thanks man