Rollins said something badass in SVU recently. Something about when your car gets stolen no one would ask you if you wanted your car to get stolen.
Like, if someone breaks into my house, i sure as hell wasn't running around town screaming my adress and inviting people to rob me.
Even if i'm a shitty person i sure as hell don't beg the person i bully to shoot me.

Maybe there was something the victim could have done to avoid the crime but in the end the person who committed the crime deserves the full blame NOT the victim.