Comment on What will you do to help the Walfas Community? by Spaztique
"Am I really the only one?" REALLY? REALLY? I didn't type 8+ angsty paragraphs for nothing, man! You've got to be kidding me right now, Spaztique. I cannot believe.
Remember all those incidents that happened in the Skype chat? How everybody tried to help out when something went wrong and you stayed silent for the most part? (Possibly helping said person in private, but regardless.) Yeah, think about it for a minute. Why do you think it's alright to claim that you're the only one who does things around here, when other people have tried to help along the way? All that matters is effort, right? Or is it only the result that matters, and that the mere fact that people care is not enough?
Hah, hahah, you are literally infuriating me right now, David. And if you say, "Oh, of course, there are other people that help," then you should've said that in the first place instead of claiming that YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE WHO ACTUALLY HELPS.
Remember all those incidents that happened in the Skype chat? How everybody tried to help out when something went wrong and you stayed silent for the most part? (Possibly helping said person in private, but regardless.) Yeah, think about it for a minute. Why do you think it's alright to claim that you're the only one who does things around here, when other people have tried to help along the way? All that matters is effort, right? Or is it only the result that matters, and that the mere fact that people care is not enough?
Hah, hahah, you are literally infuriating me right now, David. And if you say, "Oh, of course, there are other people that help," then you should've said that in the first place instead of claiming that YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE WHO ACTUALLY HELPS.
I guess I should clarify this a bit: most people only pitch in when there's a crisis already going on. My goal is to prevent a crisis before it starts.
What's sad is many of the explosions you see in the Skype chat, I often try to work out with the person weeks, sometimes months, ahead of time. They come to me with a problem since they trust me, I try to resolve it, and if I do, you never notice: this is how most of my talks with people go. However, when the talks go nowhere, you see the end results when the person explodes in public.
My house actually burned down when I was in middle school, and something interesting happened: all of the neighbors pitched in with hoses before the firefighters arrived. However, my sister was a pyromaniac: she regularly set things on fire in the back yard, which was covered in dry grass and piles of leaves. Although you could applaud my neighbors for pitching as the house burned down, the fire would have never happened if my family had stopped my sister from starting it in the first place.
That's how most people are in the Walfas community: they only pitch in when the house is burning down. My aim is to stop the fires from ever starting. Tons of people pitch in during times of crisis: it's inspiring and looks heroic, plus we feel a sense of duty to help out our fellow peoples. However, the unsung heroes are the ones who ensure we never have to see that moment: they get no recognition, no medals, no rewards, only the satisfaction that they made the world a better place, and the fact there's a calm center around them at all times.
Again, there are tons of people who solve problems as they happen, but I really can't recall many people in this community, or even offline, who act as a calm center. If there's more than one, I apologize and I'll add them as examples to the post.
What's sad is many of the explosions you see in the Skype chat, I often try to work out with the person weeks, sometimes months, ahead of time. They come to me with a problem since they trust me, I try to resolve it, and if I do, you never notice: this is how most of my talks with people go. However, when the talks go nowhere, you see the end results when the person explodes in public.
My house actually burned down when I was in middle school, and something interesting happened: all of the neighbors pitched in with hoses before the firefighters arrived. However, my sister was a pyromaniac: she regularly set things on fire in the back yard, which was covered in dry grass and piles of leaves. Although you could applaud my neighbors for pitching as the house burned down, the fire would have never happened if my family had stopped my sister from starting it in the first place.
That's how most people are in the Walfas community: they only pitch in when the house is burning down. My aim is to stop the fires from ever starting. Tons of people pitch in during times of crisis: it's inspiring and looks heroic, plus we feel a sense of duty to help out our fellow peoples. However, the unsung heroes are the ones who ensure we never have to see that moment: they get no recognition, no medals, no rewards, only the satisfaction that they made the world a better place, and the fact there's a calm center around them at all times.
Again, there are tons of people who solve problems as they happen, but I really can't recall many people in this community, or even offline, who act as a calm center. If there's more than one, I apologize and I'll add them as examples to the post.
Preventing incidents from occurring before they even start is a good goal, but a lot of the time, people hide their feelings and thoughts from others and end up letting their troubles explode in front of others. If that's the case, then how are you capable of preventing problems before they even begin?
All I wanted was to make sure you had that in mind, because I actually did get a bit offended by your claims of you being the only one that actually helps around here. I do my best and try to keep incidents like that under control, isn't that enough? The effort? The thing is, I'm hardly ever approached by anyone about their problems, except maybe one or two people in particular. (Who I will not name for the sake of privacy.) I can see why people don't trust me and rely on you instead, no worries~.
All I wanted was to make sure you had that in mind, because I actually did get a bit offended by your claims of you being the only one that actually helps around here. I do my best and try to keep incidents like that under control, isn't that enough? The effort? The thing is, I'm hardly ever approached by anyone about their problems, except maybe one or two people in particular. (Who I will not name for the sake of privacy.) I can see why people don't trust me and rely on you instead, no worries~.
People come to me for their problems because they see me as reliable, trustworthy, passionate, calm, and level-headed, both online and offline. What's funny is I don't think I'm as reliable, passionate, trustworthy-looking, or level-headed as I should be (I've got calm down no problem), yet I hold myself to a higher standard than virtually everyone I know. I volunteer as much as I can, I do my best to keep my integrity, I put out more energy than most (especially in real life), I keep cool more than most, I do my best to keep focused, and as a result, virtually everyone sees me for their problems.
I guess it's another thing that I'm a very loud, very public, very open guy. I'm easy to pick out of a crowd because I radiate that passion 24-7. I can't recall anybody else in the community regularly doing streams, regularly doing live tutorials, regularly doing personal development seminars, regularly writing guides and blogs, all at the same time. I'm relentless in my pace, in my ambition, in my goals, and it rubs off on people. They say, "I want that!" So, a number of them cling to me. However, as I said in this post, I'd rather have it be a whole culture they cling to: a whole society where everyone put in that much energy, that much passion, that much relentless ambition, that much love and calm and goodwill.
And that's how I wish to prevent problems before they start: creating a culture where self-reliance and empathy for others was a way of life. People will pick up the traits of either their biggest influence (usually a leader) or their peer group. Leaders are limited to the followers: cultures are all-encompassing. No amount of rules or regulations can stand up to the power of a culture.
I guess it's another thing that I'm a very loud, very public, very open guy. I'm easy to pick out of a crowd because I radiate that passion 24-7. I can't recall anybody else in the community regularly doing streams, regularly doing live tutorials, regularly doing personal development seminars, regularly writing guides and blogs, all at the same time. I'm relentless in my pace, in my ambition, in my goals, and it rubs off on people. They say, "I want that!" So, a number of them cling to me. However, as I said in this post, I'd rather have it be a whole culture they cling to: a whole society where everyone put in that much energy, that much passion, that much relentless ambition, that much love and calm and goodwill.
And that's how I wish to prevent problems before they start: creating a culture where self-reliance and empathy for others was a way of life. People will pick up the traits of either their biggest influence (usually a leader) or their peer group. Leaders are limited to the followers: cultures are all-encompassing. No amount of rules or regulations can stand up to the power of a culture.
yup go ahead just
SLAM DUNKS SELF INTO TRASH
[frozen voice] THE TRASH NEVER BOTHERED ME ANYWAY
In all seriousness, I personally believe that being out-going is a major part of, well, being an overall enjoyable person to be around. And that's what I try doing around you guys: being out-going and trying to lighten up the mood a bit.(Though, no one seems to care about meme and irony around here, rip me. OTL)
Can I be perfectly honest? Don't take it as me thinking all these little events you make as a waste of time or anything, but all you ever seem to focus on are your streams and "seminars" and it kind of gives me a vibe that you'd rather just focus 24/7 on nothing but work. It's probably just me, but you're going to end up burning yourself out if you stress yourself about all these projects at once. One project in particular? The HTF Birthday video. I'm sorry, but it's February, it's time to move on. You can make it up this year by doing two separate parts, or one double-sized video, or something. It's getting late and I'm losing the ability to think straight.
Anywho, because you focus all your time on work and end up leading yourself to burning out, it gives me a vibe that you hardly even have any personality in the first place. "I need to get going on this," "I need to work on that," just. Something about that makes me think you only care about getting stuff out there: it's extremely difficult to try to get to know you on a deep, emotional level. Tell me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the entire point of a friendship? To rely on someone just as much as they rely on you? At this point, it makes me feel like I try talking to a machine, and I'd rather talk to a human being than an AI. I know you've mentioned about this before, but can't you take a day or two to yourself and just relax and not worry about any projects? Just. Hang out on Raidcall and just sit there talking to people, play some games, SOMETHING other than a major project. If you need SOMETHING productive to work on, write a onefic fanfiction or something, just. Don't stress yourself out so much on something that can get done at any point. And before you say that you don't want to relax and that you want to work, work, work, you're missing the entire point already. You KNOW by now not to slack off for too long. One day, maybe two. Just relax for a while and decrease the chances of getting gray hairs before you even hit 30. Again, you KNOW BETTER by now; you managed to get Diamond in the Rough finished, though it took a few years to do so, but regardless.
While you're at it, FOCUS ON ONE PROJECT AT A TIME, FOR GOD'S SAKE. I know you set up that whole goal thingamajig, but do you ever wonder WHY it takes so long to get all your projects done in the first place? Why DitR took 2+ years to complete? Why you're freaking out over getting the HTF video done when it's FEBRUARY? It's because you've been simultaneously trying to get other stuff done. ONE. STEP. AT. A. TIME. For someone who claims to be "calm," you seem like you're about to grow some gray hairs. Again, ONE PROJECT AT A TIME, BUDDY. You'll see a difference if you take little baby steps, trust me.
SLAM DUNKS SELF INTO TRASH
[frozen voice] THE TRASH NEVER BOTHERED ME ANYWAY
In all seriousness, I personally believe that being out-going is a major part of, well, being an overall enjoyable person to be around. And that's what I try doing around you guys: being out-going and trying to lighten up the mood a bit.
Can I be perfectly honest? Don't take it as me thinking all these little events you make as a waste of time or anything, but all you ever seem to focus on are your streams and "seminars" and it kind of gives me a vibe that you'd rather just focus 24/7 on nothing but work. It's probably just me, but you're going to end up burning yourself out if you stress yourself about all these projects at once. One project in particular? The HTF Birthday video. I'm sorry, but it's February, it's time to move on. You can make it up this year by doing two separate parts, or one double-sized video, or something. It's getting late and I'm losing the ability to think straight.
Anywho, because you focus all your time on work and end up leading yourself to burning out, it gives me a vibe that you hardly even have any personality in the first place. "I need to get going on this," "I need to work on that," just. Something about that makes me think you only care about getting stuff out there: it's extremely difficult to try to get to know you on a deep, emotional level. Tell me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the entire point of a friendship? To rely on someone just as much as they rely on you? At this point, it makes me feel like I try talking to a machine, and I'd rather talk to a human being than an AI. I know you've mentioned about this before, but can't you take a day or two to yourself and just relax and not worry about any projects? Just. Hang out on Raidcall and just sit there talking to people, play some games, SOMETHING other than a major project. If you need SOMETHING productive to work on, write a onefic fanfiction or something, just. Don't stress yourself out so much on something that can get done at any point. And before you say that you don't want to relax and that you want to work, work, work, you're missing the entire point already. You KNOW by now not to slack off for too long. One day, maybe two. Just relax for a while and decrease the chances of getting gray hairs before you even hit 30. Again, you KNOW BETTER by now; you managed to get Diamond in the Rough finished, though it took a few years to do so, but regardless.
While you're at it, FOCUS ON ONE PROJECT AT A TIME, FOR GOD'S SAKE. I know you set up that whole goal thingamajig, but do you ever wonder WHY it takes so long to get all your projects done in the first place? Why DitR took 2+ years to complete? Why you're freaking out over getting the HTF video done when it's FEBRUARY? It's because you've been simultaneously trying to get other stuff done. ONE. STEP. AT. A. TIME. For someone who claims to be "calm," you seem like you're about to grow some gray hairs. Again, ONE PROJECT AT A TIME, BUDDY. You'll see a difference if you take little baby steps, trust me.
I don't work all the time: my biggest problem is I'm a terrible time manager with bad momentum issues. The HTF video isn't don't simply because I haven't worked on it. Part of why I stream is so people can know when I'm working on something: the fact I haven't streamed in so long should be a sign I haven't worked all the time.
I'm capable of breaks. I just don't like them. I'm not stressed out by work: I love it once I get going. Rather, I'm stressed out when I fall behind.
When I'm at full speed, I can take on as many projects as I want. At my peak, I was doing DitR, Twilight of the Hakurei, comics, Advice-A-Day, Kasen's Book Club, and several offline projects, all at the same time, and I still had time to hang out and goof around. I just need that kind of pace back. It's a paradox: when I seem my most busiest, I'm actually my most worn-out, and when I look like I'm free, I'm actually juggling hundreds of things at once. Not everyone is like that, but I'm one of those people who always needs to be working to, paradoxically, get free time.
I'm capable of breaks. I just don't like them. I'm not stressed out by work: I love it once I get going. Rather, I'm stressed out when I fall behind.
When I'm at full speed, I can take on as many projects as I want. At my peak, I was doing DitR, Twilight of the Hakurei, comics, Advice-A-Day, Kasen's Book Club, and several offline projects, all at the same time, and I still had time to hang out and goof around. I just need that kind of pace back. It's a paradox: when I seem my most busiest, I'm actually my most worn-out, and when I look like I'm free, I'm actually juggling hundreds of things at once. Not everyone is like that, but I'm one of those people who always needs to be working to, paradoxically, get free time.
I don't know if this is any of my business.
I know where you're coming from Spaz, I was the exact same way (not much now). But, I have to agree with SDV here. It's good to have projects to do and have motivation to do them, but there is nothing wrong with a break or a short hiatus.
I know with some people, they don't like taking breaks. But that is also pretty dangerous. I know that when I have like three to five things, I get stressed or overexert myself. I know you don't, but I'm telling you this as a friend, not a Walfaser or psychiatric person. I'm sure you can at least just try to take a day or two to wind down bit.
I know where you're coming from Spaz, I was the exact same way (not much now). But, I have to agree with SDV here. It's good to have projects to do and have motivation to do them, but there is nothing wrong with a break or a short hiatus.
I know with some people, they don't like taking breaks. But that is also pretty dangerous. I know that when I have like three to five things, I get stressed or overexert myself. I know you don't, but I'm telling you this as a friend, not a Walfaser or psychiatric person. I'm sure you can at least just try to take a day or two to wind down bit.
I actually been on sort of a break for months. If you've noticed, I've done very little since the summer of 2014. I'm in dire need of getting back into action.
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