For one thing, I challenge you to find any type of evidence at all from any source (opinion articles don't count as "evidence" by the way) that more violence has been done in the name of Christianity than Islam. I could give you proof that more than of the ongoing armed conflicts in the world are either instigated or being perpetuated by Islamic terrorists, and that countries under Islamic law are the only ones in the world that give the death penalty for blasphemy and homosexuality, even though it's legal to for a man to marry a 12 year old girl, but it's just a "coincidence" that all these people are calling themselves Muslim, right?
The Klan and abortion clinic bombers are nothing compared to international groups like Al Qaeda and ISIS. I'm not even going to count the "Lone Wolf" Muslim terrorists, because I don't need to. If I did of course, the death toll caused by Muslims would be even higher. You sound as if you're completely unaware of the Islamic Jihads that spread across Asia, Africa, even parts of Europe during the Middle ages, rivaling the Crusades in their ferocity, and starting centuries before them. Contrast that with Christianity which was at least sometimes spread peacefully, especially in its early history, and the modern age.
If you think that most Islamic extremists don't have at least as much hatred for non-Arabs, I've got a bridge to sell you.
You do have a point that we should try to build a good relationship with peaceful Muslims rather than pushing them away, but that's an effort that has to go both ways. You can't have a compromise where only one side gives something up, and the other side doesn't give anything. Also, the Muslims who really are peaceful won't support terrorist groups in the first place. Those who do were already considering violence beforehand.
The hatred towards Christianity and the American people demonstrated by Muslim extremists, not to mention the violence they're causing, is making the Ku Klux Klan and other groups like it more powerful. Al Qaeda and ISIS are giving Islamophobes exactly what they want- they are driving moderate Christians and conservatives into the hands of those you would condemn.