We have a fire bin so it's do-able and i really like that idea! especially cause like you suggested we can easlily explain what the symbolic gesture is to the kids ;u; I mean as much as they'd want to i feel like the adults would have to put the note in for them but I'm going to bring that idea up! it might be late for everyone now .-. but I'm gonna try my best! It's gonna be convincing everyone a change of tradition that's gonna be my biggest task now
but thank you! I really do appreciate the advice and it's really helpful